Being Prepared

Remember the Boy Scout Motto-  Be Prepared?  That's what this blog is really all about.  We need to be prepared for tomorrow because we don't know what tomorrow will bring.

I recently found a website: www.prepareforyourcare.org, a program that helps you make end of life medical decisions.  It is easy to understand and may give you the opportunity to bring up the questions of "what if" to your family members.  Having the talk with those close to you is so important.  A converstaion now can provide guidance to loved ones later.

Of course there is no one size fits all.  The conversation can take many twists and turns.  At first it is awkward and the person or persons with whom you are having the conversation may not want to hear it.  Ask them when a good time would be for a talk.  If the answer is "never", propose that they just listen so you can get your points off your chest.  You can talk about your concerns if you become unable to make medical decisions.  You can also talk about your feelings about organ donation, pain relief, treatment options, and hospitalization vs home.  If these topics are on your mind, start talking. Check out the website and also visit The Conversation Project, http://theconversationproject.org.

George was so upset that his wife did not want further treatment at the end of her life.  They had many conversations about her decision until finally she completed Advanced Directives and checked the box that her decision was final and no one could overrule her.  When there was no recourse, he realized that she was doing what she wanted and he was frightened about losing her.  He realized that this final decision was going to be in her best interest and he would have to face his fear of being alone.  Once that was done, George was better able to support her in the final months of her life.

So talk.  Talk to your children, talk to your spouse/ partner, talk to your friend.  Be Prepared.

Image:  Ron Mader