I’m pretty good about dealing with the ends of a Bell Curve. Extreme sadness or medical issue can be dealt with; joy and jubilation can be dealt with. But this slow stream of having to give up things that have been a part of me is really, really difficult. Intellectually, I understand that in order to have room for the new, the old needs to be discarded. But, boy, it is difficult. I also understand that the less “stuff” one has, the easier it is to clean the space….mentally and materially.
We are moving into a space one half of the current footprint. When I agreed to move, I didn’t expect to find a new location so quickly and I didn’t expect the experience to be so tumultuous.
Selling things conjures up feelings of sadness, fun, excitement, and resignation. To have a house sale or not; to sell pieces individually on Craig’s List or eBay or Facebook Marketplace or not; to donate or not; to locate a consignment shop or not. And of course, all this while trying to keep the daily routine and responsibilities. Whenever I think about or utter the word “trying”, I remember a comment by Tony Robbins who said something like “trying” is not doing. So I will rewrite the above phrase: all this while keeping the daily routine and responsibilities. I actually feel better. Less overwhelm.
Lessons learned from selling a house: 1) the less cluttered it is, the better it shows; 2) the cleaner it is, the better it shows; 3) the better your paperwork, i.e., the dates, companies, improvements made, the easier the disclosure form can be completed and the more accurate the written description for the house ads becomes; 4) lower expectations for meal prep during the time the house is on the market makes for less stress; 5) every day is a day in which the perfect buyer will see the house so every day the house must look pristine.
I will be speaking to an AARP group later this month about my blog and my mission to encourage people to organize their intentions so that those who inherit the responsibility to deal with the person’s incapacity or death will actually know where things are and what to do.
Contact me if you have a Pittsburgh group that would be open to having me speak.