Dinner with friends
is an unusual place for a conversation about wills, etc. but that’s what
happened when 2 couples with second marriages and his and hers kids got
together. And I was astonished to learn
that her son did not have a will or a guardian for his kids. I thought some of my kids were the only ones
who have chosen to ignore the will and guardianship issue. How can bright people ignore this? Life can change in an instant and unless we,
as responsible adults, take action to make our wishes known, situations can
spiral out of control for survivors.
What happens if both parents die at the same time and little children
become orphans? Do the parents want
grandparents to step in? Do the parents
agree that one of their siblings is in a better place to step in? Or do the courts have to decide? All of this can be avoided if parents of
young children take the responsibility to select a guardian. We are not invincible teenagers, we are
mortal men and women. Things
happen. Plans must be made; they can
always be changed in the future. My
predicament is, can I change other people's behavior.
Thoughts????
Photo: Romain Matte
I think many people believe that they are much more in control of things than they can be...and their idea of control is just to ignore things. It is very selfish but natural to ignore things like death, illness, tragedy, the fact that one's teenagers are sexual beings, have no discussions when you are not happy with someone/s behavior, recognize mental illness of a family member, etc. So, can you change other people behavior? Probably not but you can get them to think and you can chose to live the truth. They may have to learn their lessons the hard way.
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